Thursday, November 16, 2006

Dumb girlfriends and standards for men


The other day, I was watching Family Guy. If you aren't familiar with this show, it was a great show when it started out, then progressively got worse and worse over the years. The main issue most people have with the show now is that the jokes aren't funny, and it makes too much use of non-sequiturs.

Last week's show was about Brian, the talking dog, and his new girlfriend, the bimbo. Stewie, the talking baby, thinks Brian's reticence to show his girlfriend to the family is because she's ugly. Brian takes Stewie to see her to rectify this flawed assumption. Stewie learns that she is pretty, but also pretty dumb. The rest of the show is about making fun of Brian for having a bimbo girlfriend.

Why is Brian made fun of for preferring a "bimbo" - the stereotypical hot but dumb blonde, the nemesis of every NYMOM or other ugly feminist out there?

I think it goes back to not allowing men to have standards. Women think that they should be selected for their personality, their "careers", their intellect and their cats when that's all they have, but men are primarily interested in beauty and youth. What really bothers me is how much we men have internalized this message to the point where we truly want to believe that an ugly woman deserves to be looked at for her personality, and not as a consolation prize. Some of the ugliest women I've known have had the blackest hearts, poisoned by a lifetime of seeing the pretty girls get higher prices in the wholesale market of dating and mating.

So, the point. Why does everyone imply that Brian should pick based on the selection criteria they deem important? The girl is hot, and if that's what matters to Brian, then that's what matters. No one else needs to tell him what criteria he should select his mate on.

If I want a stupidly hot girlfriend but can't afford la creme de la creme, the hot and intelligent ones, its my duty and my right to fulfill my obligation to myself and put physical attractiveness before intelligence or personality.

17 comments:

  1. In all fairness, it could be more that Brian doesn't want to seem like a hypocrite, since he's on a previous occasion shown to have high intellectual standards (episode where Peter grows a beard and Brian has to do community service for the old shut-in).

    (Then again, I'm analyzing a zany cartoon).

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  2. I was thinking this, but didn't include it in the post for some reason: Its all about specialization - if Brian wants hot sex with a hot girl, he can go to his girlfriend. If he wants intelligent conversation, he can go to his numerous intellectual friends.

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  3. Pete,

    Specialization is shown to make stable families ala Gary Becker, who won a Nobel Prize in Economics.
    Ever since that time, feminists have been gnashing their teeth, trying to prove him wrong. Here's a feminist publication (http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=162731) which tries unsuccessfully to weaken his position, and, instead, ends up showing that equalitarian and 'woman headed' family arrangements are quite unstable.

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  4. Well, the original feminists hated beautiful women - because most of them weren't . Therefore, the existing natural system that valued beauty and youth (fertility) in women and power & resources in men - worked to their disadvantage.

    That's why they wanted to reverse it. They wanted to handicap beautiful women and make beauty wrong ("objectification"), in order so they could compete.

    Really, it was all self-motivated for their own self-gain. But wholly unnatural - and only ugly women benefit from this ideology. Men and beautiful women (to a lesser degree) are the biggest losers in orthodox feminism.

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  5. I want a beautiful wife. She shall be young and nubile.
    But I also want intelligent, very intelligent, children. So I am interested in her IQ. A high IQ is wanted.
    Having a wife who was a beauty in her youth but at the same time dumb children is stupid.
    Having a girlfriend who is just beautiful but without high intelligence is OK, if you do not get children.

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  6. http://www.comcast.net/news/national/index.jsp?cat=DOMESTIC&fn=/2006/11/17/522866.html&cvqh=itn_penguins

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  7. Hey there is a great new blog promoting men's equality. It is called "liberal dyke hags suck and the link is http://md1992.blogspot.com. Check it out and let the guy named Martha(yes that is a real name in Afganistan for men) know you support what he is doing for our rights!!!

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  8. I supplied no-fee counseling for 1,600+ divorced and unwed fathers, and a few non-custodial women, from 1984 to 1993. My views thus may or may not agree with anyone else's view.

    My view is that most female initiated divorce has to do with her own adulterous affairs. No, I do not agree female adultery is about poor husbands. Adultery, male of female, is first and foremost about moral weakness.

    These women run into a 'seducer' at work or at play, usually at work, who hears her complaints about her unhappiness in marriage. These evil men move in with sweet comments, and romantic talk, and she falls in love with him. Soon, they do lunch instead of eat it.

    THE MORE BEAUTIFUL YOUR WIFE IS, THE MORE LIKELY SOME SEDUCER WILL MOVE IN ON HER. That is my observation.

    That does not mean ugly women are sweet and lovable. Look at NYMOM's picture for evidence to the contrary.

    The problem is, men aren't taught how to find personality traits and circumstances which predict a low probability of divorce. I learned this when I was, um, nearly 50. The short test is see how she drives. If a woman drives like a fiend, her chances of divorce are much higher. End of debate.

    There is also the long test, but how she drives summarizes all the important issues. Selfishness; lack of concern for others; accepting an external morality as opposed to if it feels good, do it.

    Anonymous age 64

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  9. "What really bothers me is how much we men have internalized this message to the point where we truly want to believe that an ugly woman deserves to be looked at for her personality, and not as a consolation prize. Some of the ugliest women I've known have had the blackest hearts, poisoned by a lifetime of seeing the pretty girls get higher prices in the wholesale market of dating and mating."

    I've witnessed just the opposite actually.

    Usually it's the gorgeous ones who have a severe entitlement complex. During my lunch break I've sat around gorgeous college women, and you should hear the way they talk about their current boyfriend. You wouldn't believe some of the games these women run on them, and how many others they have on the side.

    Sometimes, you have to apply 1 Samuel 16:7 when entering relationships if you don't want to get screwed over.

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  10. iwouldbefree, I didn't exonerate the hotties. ;-) A bad personality can come in any wrapper - ugly women are not automatically more angelic than the pretty ones is what I meant to say.

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  11. I hate to pop your little bubble of illusion pete patriach but I'm a grandmother in my 50s NOW.

    I wasn't always one.

    AND back in the day I was very pretty and had many boyfriends interested in me...

    So as usual your analysis is totally wrong...Just like you or one of your idiot friends has been posting on my blog: "thanks for not contributing to the gene pool" and I had to inform them that I'm a grandmother...I've had children and a grandchild...

    So don't think you know so much about someone just from looking at a bad picture of them on the internet...like I hate pretty young woman or something. I have two pretty daughters and a granddaughter and have NOTHING against pretty woman...

    NYMOM

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  12. "If I want a stupidly hot girlfriend but can't afford la creme de la creme, the hot and intelligent ones, its my duty and my right to fulfill my obligation to myself and put physical attractiveness before intelligence or personality."

    Right.

    But then remember: don't complain so much when she sticks you up for 18+ years of child support for some other man's kid that she was boinking on the side...

    Okay.

    If you'd all just shut up and 'take it like a man' when you made these bad choices with loose women, the rest of us could live with it...the problem is you never stop complaining about it afterwards and then trying to blame everyone else for your poor choices...

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  13. @nymom
    But then remember: don't complain so much when she sticks you up for 18+ years of child support for some other man's kid that she was boinking on the side...

    How does that relate to the beauty of the girlfriend?
    Not at all. If she is pregnant she shall marry or get child support from the father.
    You are mixing different topics wildly.

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  14. "How does that relate to the beauty of the girlfriend..."

    It relates to the fact that many men wind up marrying and/or hooking up with little bits of unstable fluff you meet in a nightclub or something...while leaving somewhat plainer but more stable girls sitting at home w/o boyfriends.

    I see many young women, very nice girls if somewhat plain, where I work...alone, eating out by themselves and whatnot...

    Perfect example: Anna Nicole Simpson...any man who had an affair with that woman was begging for trouble, she had a long history behind her of instability...

    Yet one of you was stupid enough to mess around with her and the result is baby in the bahamas, long drawn out paternity/custody fight ending God know when...

    AND I guarantee you he'll be all over the news media whining about how men are victims, the courts favor mothers and that's why this happened to him, it's so unfair, yada, yada, yada...

    When in fact, it was his own poor choices that led to the situation...

    That's the connection...pretty but unstable women, as is frequently the case...

    Probably because they've had so many of you men taking advance of them since they were about 12 or so because they were pretty...that's why they are generally unstable.

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  15. The short test is see how she drives. If a woman drives like a fiend, her chances of divorce are much higher. End of debate.

    There is also the long test, but how she drives summarizes all the important issues. Selfishness; lack of concern for others; accepting an external morality as opposed to if it feels good, do it.


    Wow, very interesting test...thanks! Got any more good tips?

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  16. This 'test' would apply to men as well...it's not specific to women...

    Anyone who drives fast and carelessly should be avoided. Same with how people treat wait staff at a restaurant or their pets...

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  17. You've incited more than one person, but I'll sum it up like mother did best:
    "Beauty fades, dumb lasts forever."

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