Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Help! My ex-girlfriend wants my house and my money!

Found this on another forum I frequent... this happens in Australia, but it could happen anywhere, since (for once) it is not misandric laws doing the shafting, but a member of the Royal Sex using her god-given powers to twist everything to her benefit.


Yesterday I received a letter from a solicitor regarding my ex-girlfriend. Before I get to what she wants, I'll try to briefly explain the situation. We're both in Australia, and we lived together for just over 10 years. We never had kids, and never got married. During this time, like most relationships, she got unhappy as we didn't talk much anymore, and our interests kinda drifted apart.

About 4 years ago I thought if we got an affordable house out in a regional part of NSW, it might save the relationship. As my business at the time was doing well, I put down roughly 80k of my money on the mortgage as a deposit, and her mother put about 20k towards it as well (which wasn't needed, but it was her way of contributing). The thing I regret most, is there was no reason for her name to even be on the mortgage (I was certainly making enough money), but thinking it might save us, I put both our names on it. About 2 and a half years ago, she decides she wanted to leave (which was a shock), and to avoid any conflict, I told her she could take whatever she wanted when she leaving. She ended up taking a bunch of stuff, including the crappy car I had paid for (but put in her name), and my TV/XBOX/DVDs/CDs/etc. She had no interest in the house, and said there was nothing to worry about... she would never demand that I sell it. Not being in a financial position to remortgage the house in my name, I left both our names on it, and hoped for the best.

When she left, we stayed as friends, and I had verbally agreed to gradually pay back around 30k, which was to be the money her mother gave us, plus a little more on top. The problem of course is one person doesn't have a great deal of spending money once the mortgage payments are made, and I couldn't afford to do make her payments anymore. I let her know, and she was ok with it. I have randomly given her money when she needed it, so it's not like I completely stopped sending her money.

About 6 months ago, she went for a bank loan for 55 grand so she could buy an established business. She had asked (although it was more of a demand) that I go guarantor, and to keep the peace, I agreed (with the house being at stake if she failed to make her repayments).

So, fast forward to the present, and I receive a letter that essentially says I have to give her over 80k, or I have to sell the house. There is a lot of info I'm leaving out, but basically in the time she lived here, she put a total of about $700 towards the mortgage repayments (which is one payment), never contributed to any of the household repair costs, and hardly ever paid bills. In the 8 years before we bought the house, she never paid rent, and again, never really contributed to the bills. I'm kinda shocked she has done this, but to be honest, it's my own fault for not expecting her to do it.

The real problem I think is her sister. She is always in her ear about getting what she deserves, and she has been pushing her to basically make me sell the house. I've so far probably put in about 150 grand towards this house, and there's still 220k to go. If the house is to be sold in the condition it is in (which is a damn site better than when she left), it'll probably sell for maybe 300k. There is no way in hell she can expect 80k, as I don't have that kinda of money (I have $200 in the bank), and if the house is sold, I'll be pretty much ruined (and she still won't have 80k after the taxes/solicitor costs). I'm aware it's probably the solicitor trying to scare me.

Any Aussies with legal experience in such matters have any idea what I should do in this situation? The other problem is I'm living week to week (I make $2000 a month, and the mortgage repayments are about $1800 a month), so I certainly don't have the funds to see a lawyer at the moment. I thought maybe some goon help might make my options a little clearer before I freak out too much. My main concern is if I do come to some sort of agreement with her, and take out another loan to pay her back, she'll probably be back later demanding more money. I've tried to call/email her, but I assume the solicitor has told her to ignore my requests to contact her.

I'm willing to bet that if he was living with a mate or mates, he wouldn't have let them stay rent-free for EIGHT YEARS - and that's before he bought the house. So basically, he was letting his girlfriend stay rent-free. Why? Because that's what men do, silly! What good is a man's earning power if it doesn't benefit a woman?

As a side note, I pay $500 to share a crappy 2-bedroom apartment in sunny California. Eight years of that is $48,000.

$48,000. Just think about that for a minute. Prostitution anyone? I wonder what she spent her rent money on.

And then he puts her on the mortgage, even though he knows that she has never made a rent payment - why? How could someone be so stupid as to risk his entire financial life because of a woman?

Because he thinks that he can buy his way into her pussy and into eternal bliss in the arms of a member of the Royal Sex.

It just gets better and better. He wants to pay her alimony for the time spent with him. "I have randomly given her money when she needed it, so it's not like I completely stopped sending her money."

This could happen anywhere, no palimony laws needed, just a pussy and a pussy.

Also, newsflash - relationships don't "drift apart" so much when you're with a traditional girl who loves you and doesn't see you as an object. Unfortunately, that pretty much disqualifies Western women right off the bat.


  1. The guy is an idiot- what a tool!! He did it to himself.

    1)Never move in with a woman that you are not married to. And never get married unless you found the one who the Sun rises from her ass, meaning never. Even a relatively descent woman may do, and often does, 180 degree turn out of the blue.

    2) Avoid all entanglements. Find a shag and that is it. If you ain't good looking or smooth enough for a woman to sleep with you without the promise of her owning you out right, then go with prostitutes until your sex drive subsides.

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  4. Um, I hate to admit this. We guys are in real trouble and I have to agree at this time. USA will be forced into "official" communism, NOT Socialized Democracy and or Socialism if the ladies do not LET GO and the police do not find a way to arrest them for setting up, lying continually, using sex as weapon and way for advancement in higher education and career AND THE OLDER women do not stop supporting this - as well as pissed off single fathers (who find it CUTE to see their daughters stripping AND becoming doctors and attorneys at same time as well as RIPPING off their fathers' younger counterparts who would actually like an opportunity to become married and have a family like the single fathers who either screwed up or got screwed) NOT SINGLE males fault.

  5. This guy screwed himself. What a moron. Never, EVER, buy anything with a woman. This guy totally had it coming to him. It's sad but some men need to be trampled on like this until they see the light. You can bet that before the divorce, this guy was a real pro-feminist woman, a "nice guy". LOL, look what it got him.

  6. Jesus, I empathise. Next time, keep records of who payed for what, esp. for important purchases, keep receipts (in a safety deposit box) and let's get our rights to own women whole back!

  7. Coming from a woman, some woman are evil. I am a woman that take care of herself. My boyfriend has endless problems with his ex (EVIL WHITCH)

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